Friday, December 28, 2007

My Mom's Music...

For those of you who don't know, 70's musical artist, Dan Fogelberg passed away on December 16 this year. He will be sorely missed by his family, friends, and fans. He died from prostate cancer.

When I grew up, I enjoyed listening to my mom's music. For most kids, they consider it to be "uncool" to listen to the music their parents listened to. As I've always said, I'm weird. I really enjoyed listening to all the music, along with my music in the 80's.

I had 2 favorite songs from him, Leader of the Band and Same Old Lang Syne. Here are the lyrics to Leader of the Band. As a friend explained on his blog, this song is talking about Dan's father. I really enjoy his music. They have a meaning and the music is very nice. If you've never heard his music, you should try it. You might like it.

Leader of the Band

An only child alone and wild, a cabinet maker's son
His hands were meant for different work
And his heart was known to none
He left his home and went his lone and solitary way
And he gave to me a gift I know I never can repay
A quiet man of music denied a simpler fate
He tried to be a soldier once, but his music wouldn't wait
He earned his love through discipline-- a thundering, velvet hand
His gentle means of sculpting souls took me years to understand
(Chorus)
The leader of the band is tired and his eyes are growing old
But his blood runs through my instrument and his song is in my soul
My life has been a poor attempt to imitate the man
I'm just a living legacy to the leader of the band

My brothers' lives were different for they heard another call
One went to Chicago and the other to St Paul
And I'm in Colorado when I'm not in some hotel
Living out this life I've chose and have come to know so well

I thank you for the music and your stories of the road
I thank you for the freedom when it came my time to go
I thank you for the kindness and the times when you got tough
And, papa, I don't think I said 'I love you' near enough
(Chorus)
I am a living legacy to the leader of the band


Lots of love to all,
Cathy
8^ )

Friday, December 21, 2007

H.S. Foreign Language...

After 2 years of fighting with my transfer advisor (who by the way is no longer my advisor), graduation review had to pull my high school transcript from admissions & records to reveal I did indeed take 3 years of foreign language to enable me to graduate in May.

Duh!

I've been arguing that fact for 2 years now! But, it took one nice registrar to pull the information and prove what I've been saying. But, it also helped that I scanned and emailed my copy of the transcript for her to see it.

The problem was, I graduated high school in 1989. During that time, they didn't include socials with the transcript. So, being that I'm married now and using my married name, they couldn't put together the transcript with my college record.

So, when they degree my file in the spring, they'll use the paper application, with her updates. There's an online degree audit, but that doesn't have every piece from transferring, etc to show that I have everything to graduate, but it's all on paper.

Congratulate me. All I need are the grades in spring to graduate in May. And, I'll get a grade from my internship. So, again, the geeky overachiever is working toward 4 A's and another 4.0, which could allow me to graduate with a 3.75 GPA and possibly graduate with honors.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Today, I've already done:

1. took Cassi to school and picked up cell phone Dan lost last night at the holiday program (more on this to follow).
2. went to Wal-Mart and picked up colored undies for Rob from Cassi for Xmas, along with frosting for Cassi's bday cake. Also picked up lunch for Cassi and got gas for Rob.
3. frosted Cassi's bday cake for Xmas party.
4. took Cassi lunch and hung out.

To do:

1. Xmas parties at school.
2. Get Cassi ready and off to Pa's for the weekend (remember, I still need to have phone conference with Santa this weekend before Xmas).
3. Make couple dozen oatmeal raisin cookies for Rob to take to work.
4. Get Rob ready and off to work.
5. Wrap presents and call Santa.

That's it.

Wednesday, December 19, 2007

It's Official....

Well, by 11:30 pm last night, my grades had not been completely posted. Oh, the grant class submitted the grade almost 2 weeks ago. But nothing from Professor Chris or Professor Mary.

OK. Just checked. And the drumroll please.......

........................


Straight A's.

Yes, I knew that's what my grades were going to be, but until they are on "paper," you just have to hold your tongue.

So, my GPA for the semester is a 4.0 and my overall cumulative is a 3.66. Hmmm, I could graduate with a 3.75.

Cool!

Lots of love,

Cathy
8^ )

Thursday, December 13, 2007

Gotta Vent... (and other things)

OK. This semester was REALLY good for me. Today, when we finished class, I got to chat with Professor Mary before leaving. We didn't have a final. She gave us 3 exams over the semester. And, to top it off, so we could spend more time in discussion of the topics for the class, she allowed us TAKE HOME exams. This last test, I completed on Tuesday. With my schedule, Tuesday morning was the best. And, that was good because it took me almost 4 hours to complete. It was a 5-question essay test.

But, as you may recall earlier, we also had a research paper and a book review. Well, for the book review, I got an A (shh! I didn't finish reading the book, but would love to take it out from my library and read it again!).

For the research paper, of course, being a RESEARCH paper, you are SUPPOSED to research information for your paper. Mary said this evening that 4 of my classmates didn't even research AT ALL! And, one person failed the research paper with a 48%.

Now, COME ON! This class was filled with upper level undergrads and grads. AND, the class was Composition Theory for English Teachers. How are these guys going to function in the real world, wanting to be ENGLISH Teachers, if they don't do the work themselves. Well, I did. Even though I might not have had enough information to begin with, I still got an A for my paper.

AND, I didn't take the class because I want to go be an English Teacher. Originally, it fit my schedule; Mary was teaching and wanted her for a professor again, and 3. if I decide to go back for my Secondary English Teaching Certificate, this class qualifies.

Oh, wait! I keep forgetting. This is a phrase that keeps bopping around when I talk with the secretary at Cassi's school. I'm RESPONSIBLE!

As I've told Mrs. Carey (at Cassi's school). Because I worked in an Audit firm, I learned how to be responsible and do what was necessary. (Although I was once told that I grew up too fast when I was 26 and that I lost my innocence! Well, that's what happens when you get a job and become a responsible adult!)

But, here's a good laugh for you! Yesterday, I actually had a Grammar final. Yep, an in-class, SUPPOSED TO BE, 2 hour final. I got there early. Last week, Professor Chris gave us an extra credit sheet. We had to diagram 12 sentences and had to be done 100% correct for each sentence or no credit. I could get up to 4 extra points ON MY FINAL GRADE! So, as I said, I arrived for the final early. The girl who sits next to me (damn! never got her name, but was always so nice) asked if I could look at her work. Well, damn! I forgot the subordinating clause in diagram 1. Great start for me! But, sentence #7 most people won't get. I got it right cause I checked when he came in because I opened the book and looked where the word AS would go in a diagram. He told us "OPEN BOOK" which meant, if you didn't know it, the entire book was there for us to use. That was the only sentence I had to use the book for and got the entire sheet done in 30 mins. But, I digress. He got there, and we were chatting about the exam. He said the exam was thicker than usual, but shouldn't take much longer than a regular exam. Again, we were able to use our notes. Everything but the book.

I opened my mouth and said, "So, Chris. This exam is worth 20% of our grade, right?"
Chris, "Yes."
Me, "So, if I was to walk out of the exam RIGHT NOW, I would still get a B, right?"
Chris, "Yep."

See, he knew me WELL as I'm the GEEK who sits in the front row and ALWAYS knows all the answers. Let me just say there were DISGRUNTLED classmates. They shouted they wanted to choke me. But, I think most of my classmates knew I was getting an A anyway. But, all I could do was laugh.

All in all, that exam went GREAT! I had to look up 1 thing. It was a definition and example. The last thing on the test, but I wanted to get the wording right for the exam.

And, I took 10 minutes longer than a regular test.

With that, I've got to go for the evening. I need to get up at 7am. Cassi and I are going walking at her school in the morning. They have a walking club Friday mornings. I was sick last week and couldn't go.

Lots of love to all,
Cathy
8^ )

P.S. That 4.0 for the semester is in site. My first A has been recorded, but only took my GPA so far up to 3.58. OK. So I'm a grade hog. Shoot me!

Sunday, December 09, 2007

Spring Semester Will Be CRAZY!!!!!

Ok. This spring semester, I won't know if I'm coming or going until May 10 when I walk down the asile for commencement.

Not only will I be in school this spring, but Rob will also be starting school. He's starting back to school, to complete his RN license. He will be taking 2 classes, English Comp 2 (yep, I'll be helpin him on this one) and Introduction to Sociology (I'll probably be helping him on this one too).

The positive on this comes in the form of financial aid. When Rob filled out his fafsa, it said his expected contribution per year is 1895 because there will be 2 adults in school this year (yes, this year goes through summer semester). I turned around and updated my fafsa for 2 adults. After reviewing the updates, from my original submission yielded 31## for the family contribution, my contribution went down to 1892. Hmmmm? Could this mean more for the grants? Possibly. I figured with 2 adults in school the financial aid will go up. Also, because he'll be in school, his student loan that he has from the LPN schooling will be deferred until he his finished. And, he shouldn't be finished school until Summer 2009. But, he knows that he still has to be working. There's ABSOLUTELY no way he can take any time off.

Down the road, he'll become an RN and get a promotion at work. Whooo! Hooooo!

This week is pretty calm. Rob and I have eye doctor appointments tomorrow. Oooh! Don't forget to get all my glasses out for the appt. Cassi has an appointment on Tuesday. We've decided to get her just one pair this year and see how it goes. We can always get a second pair if needed.

I have my Grammar final on Wednesday. This past Friday, he gave us a take-home extra credit portion. However, unlike just giving points on the test, this extra credit is for extra points on the FINAL GRADE! How about that? I could actually average above a 100% for my final grade. It's done today. We had 12 sentences to diagram. They have to be done completely correct or no partial points. OK. I think I did them correctly.

My Grant class is completely done. I received a 98% on the class. This means that I aced the class.

My Composition Theory class? I've got a take-home test due on Thursday. Am I done yet? Heck no! Too many other good things going on for that yet. I'll do it Tuesday morning while Rob is sanding on the dining room table (refinishing the table that came with the house).

The good things, Marie came and visited. I just LOVE when she comes. Cassi is also so VERY excited. They had a good weekend together, skating, girl stuff, etc. Marie helped us out by grocery shopping for us. She was going to buy some clothes for me for my internship. I figured I could wait to get them until next month before I start the semester. We needed groceries first. So, my present was actually turned into a family gift.


MARIE ROCKS!

Cassi is ready for bed. We're going to try something new. Come 8pm every night, it doesn't matter what she is doing, everything gets turned off, tv, computer, ps2. She has to be showered and dressed for bed. Then, she can watch tv until 9 when the tv goes off. She enjoyed showering by herself tonight. She washed her body and hair, but needed help rinsing everything out of her hair. So, I think she did pretty well.

I worked on Rob's phone data. Since we both have the same phones, we're going to have the same data on both phones. Like yesterday, Rob didn't have his phone, but I did. If I'd had his data, he would have been able to use my phone to make a call. He ended up not being able to make a call until we got home. Oh, well! But, come tomorrow, we'll have the same information.

Now, I'm just be-bopping around the net. I've got one more load of laundry to wash. Tomorrow I'll fold everything that came upstairs. Before bed, I'll put on hangars what needs to go there.

OK. That's it for now. I want to be in bed by 10pm myself and up by 7am. Trying to setup an earlier schedule so I'm ready for spring semester (yes, I know that is over a month away).

Lots of love to all,
Cathy
8^ )

P.S. If you got a Christmas card from us and expected a photo, I apologize. I was printing pics and doing cards at the same time. I forgot about the pics and started closing cards. So, I'll be sending them separately in another envelope.

Thursday, December 06, 2007

Professional Networking Site...

Have you ever wanted to reconnect with past co-workers? Trying to get a new job and need connections. Look no further. After listening to a John Tesh radio show, I came across the following site:
This is a professional site for people wanting to network with other professionals. Remember, as the old saying goes, it's not what you know but who you know.

I've been enjoying the site, finding past co-workers that I haven't spoken with in 10 years.

So, try the site. You might like it. You can also view my profile here:

View Cathryn Hennes's profile on LinkedIn
Lots of love to everyone!
Cathy
8^ )

Saturday, December 01, 2007

The Most Commented Blog Entry... (and Product Endorsement)


412 comments!

If you have never seen CuteOverload.com, you should try it. It's very calming and enjoyable. I go there almost every day. I don't comment much, but I love seeing the photos and videos and reading the comments.

And, yes, they use cutsie baby language! It works and people keep coming back in droves.

Why? Because of posts like the one shown above. Last night, when I saw it, there was almost 350 comments. So, over 50 since last night until now.

Well done, Meg!

CuteOverload.com

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Thursday, November 29, 2007

Things...

Ok. It's after midnight on Wednesday night. I'm still up! Why?

1. Just finished editing and adding to my research paper. It is due at 3pm today (since it is now Thursday). Nothing like waiting until the LAST MINUTE to get this writing done. Well, I have always said that writing under pressure is the best way for me to write. I had all 4's and 5's on my writing as it was. You could really tell I had the flu when I was writing it with all the grammar errors.
2. I turned in my print versions of my grant proposal this evening. Yeah! I'm completely done with the class. It was EASY for me. I think it was equally as easy as my grammar analysis class. I'm such a GEEK (but cute). I just know I'm getting an A in this class.
3. I napped for about an hour this evening. With EVERYTHING I did today, I needed some rest time. When I got home from grant class, I immediately made dindin for us all, got Cassi to finish her homework, and had us be quiet. Rob worked tonight and needed a short nap before work.

Well, I FINALLY got approval of my internship. YEAH! The professor who will be my anchor professor told me (and you didn't hear it from me) that the department head is retiring this year and is taking his time approving anything. But, I sent my professor the information he needs to get that book ordered for me to buy through the bookstore. And, I have a meeting Monday with my supervisor of the internship. Can you believe that I'll get a grade for this internship? I just know I'll get an A. Hmmm? Is it too early to expect a 4.0 for spring semester. I could actually graduate with a 3.75 overall GPA.

OOOH!

But, yesterday, I got an interesting phone call. At the beginning of the month, there was a career fair at CSU. One of the employers there was Defense Finance and Accounting Service (DFAS). They are hiring. But, I've known from experience, they are only looking to hire people in this area who in school for accounting. My mom and dad are both employed here. But, because of the fact they use technology heavily in their jobs, they have a whole IT function.

So, when I was there, I stopped, as a last minute idea to the table. Talking with the recruiters, I explained how my mom and dad work at DFAS and I've got technology experience. They took my resume and said they would forward it to the technology recruiters as they were both accounting recruiters.

Yesterday, I received a phone call and email. The IT department is based in Columbus, with support to the Cleveland office. They wanted my current GPA and unofficial transcript.

Oh, but if I could get hired there... My last semester of school would get broken up into 2 semester, taking 2 classes each semester and pushing my grad date to fall 2008. But, I would be working too. And, yes, I would have daycare for Cassi in the morning before her schooling starts and in the afternoon. I would love this option to happen as I REALLY need to work. But, I don't want to think about it right now. I'll start to obsess.

And, if I stay with my original plan, I will have access to research EVERYTHING grants. I may be able to find foundations willing to give me money to pay back my student loan bills (and Rob's), along with funding for my business stuff. That would be nice.

With all this said, I'm finally starting to get tired. The next few days will be CRAZY. Later today, after we get up, I will be at Cassi's school til 12:30. This week, there is a book fair. I volunteered to help the kids pick books and things they want. Cassi got 3 books (plus a couple other things nI bought her for Christmas). Friday morning, we're walking in the school's walking club before school starts, then heading to our church to help pack food gift baskets, then off to school for my grammar exam. After the exam, I've just got my final.

I'll be tired come Friday afternoon.

Pray for me!

Lots of love to all,
Cathy
8^ )

Monday, November 26, 2007

10 Things I Can't Live Without...

OK. From VegasPrincess (VP), my sister-by-proxy, who's home recovering from whatever she ate to make her sick, I'm following up with my list of

10 Things I Can't Live Without...

Anyhoo, my list of 10 (in no particular order):

1. My hubby Rob (oops, started to say Marie's Joe)
2. My CHILD Cassi (is she just one kid or a crowd?)
3. My family (including Marie and sister-by-proxy VP)
4. My computer (yep, I'm a geek, but cute!)
5. My cat (Dina, pronounced Deena)
6. My cell with text messaging (can't get enough, but only if you're IN)
7. Dr. Pepper (but only 1 can a day please)
8. My home
9. Notepads that are small enough to carry in my purse (to remind of me all the stuff I need to remember)
10. My car (because we live in the boonies - west burbs of Cleveland and need to drive to get ANYWHERE!)

OK. That's my 10. Typically, I don't get a chance to do tags when they come in email, but like to do them when I can. Not emailed but suggested by VP.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Numbers...

My daughter is OBSESSED with numbers. When she asks "when are we going to the store?" and I say "later" that isn't good enough. You can't tell her words like, later, soon, a few, etc.; words that aren't exact numbers, she gets mad.

She wants EXACT times, EXACT amounts, EXACT EXACT EXACT when it comes to numbers.

So, yesterday, dad called, letting me know Cassi was ready to come home. He would bring her home at 2.

"Pa! Not at 2, at 1:55!" she shouted.

Dad says to me that NO, we're not leaving at 2. We're leaving at 1:55 pm.

Next thing we know, they get here at 3pm. Cassi decided she was watching a TV show. At 1:55 pm, Pa says to her it's time to go.

"No, when this show's over. I'm watching it," she says. When that show was over she wanted to watch the next show.

We thought they stopped on the way. But, it's just hilarious how she's so obsessed with numbers.

Thought I'd share!

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Sunday, November 25, 2007

Wanting to Write...

Have you ever...

Done something?
Wanted to write about it on your blog?
Thought about it all the way home from where you were about what you wanted to say?
Got home?
And those thoughts left you?

That happened to me yesterday. I tried to boot up my laptop but had trouble with my internet connection. Rob played with it while I was at my last craft show and couldn't get hooked at home.

So, my WONDERFUL thoughts vanished. When I think of new ones, I'll write.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Monday, November 19, 2007

The Paper (an Update)

As I thought, I just met with my professor about my paper. Besides having the flu while writing the paper, I felt there just wasn't enough "stuff" in the paper. My professor thought so too. But, she pointed me in the right direction for additional information.

While working with her this morning, I've got the notes on what needs to be added and where it should be added. I asked her if she wanted to see it before I turn in the final draft. Only if I want her to see it.

So, I'm going to try to work on it tomorrow. Even if I don't get her to see it, at least it will be done.

Otherwise, even though there's not enough "stuff" the five major components to the paper are 4's and 5's, dealing with focus, etc.

In my grammar class, I missed last Wednesday because I just needed that EXTRA day of rest after being sick. Definitely helped. But, while I was gone, the professor gave back our grammar exams from the Friday before. Even sick and the fact that I missed 2 days didn't drop my average. I figured if I was going to bomb a test from this class this would be it because I was sick and missed important class days.

I got a 95%. Only because 2 of the problems were stupid errors, plus I had a 1% point bonus from an exercise a few weeks back. Because this class deals with detailed analyization of grammar, we diagram out sentences as part of our process. There was this sentence that he told us if we got it right, we would get a bonus point for the exam.

Well, no one got it right but me, but because everyone tried, everyone got the point. Kinda made me feel crappy because I was the only person to get it right.

OK. That's about it for now. I'm feeling the need for a snack. And, I want to look at moving my car to my "good" parking lot before class. I've got class today and Wednesday. Off Tuesday.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Monday, November 12, 2007

My Research Paper - Fears

OK. As I was just saying, tomorrow is my Composition Theory class. For tomorrow's class, I have to have completed my rough draft of my paper completed. The paper has to be 10 pages typed and double-spaced. I've got about four of those pages done. Plus, the inclusion of the cover, table of contents, works cited, and appendices.

Because I think and write segmented, I figured my best bet would be to write my paper segmented. And, as I thought, the paper is working out that way. I've been be-bopping around my paper, typing stuff where it belongs in the order.

Here's my fears. I've had this professor before. This is my professor from my Technical Writing class. Yep, if you're remembering, I had to do a segmented research paper there as well. So, my professor knows how well I can research and how well I can write. Because this paper deals with some topics that I'm not completely familar with, I feel that when she reads the paper, she might become disappointed. That disappointment will be because she knows how well I write and I don't think this paper will be as good. Yes, I understand each paper has its own differences, but I have a reputation to uphold.

But, also as I said, I've been sick since Thursday. Yesterday and today have been the worst of the days, the flu or at least a sinus infection. But, I feel like I'm getting better today.

As it stands, I've still got about 6 pages left to write for this paper.

Oh, wonder what I'm writing about? My question is: How do I teach writing to children with learning disabilities?

It's very close to my heart as my child has a learning disability. This LD gives her trouble in every aspect of her school life. As she grows older and goes into the higher grades, that trouble will continue. I want to be able to stay current with the teachers to be able to help her at home. I figured it was a good topic to write my research paper about.

And, my other classes? Grant class - 2 points less than acing the class, Grammar analysis - 94% on all tests.

Ok. Gonna go. I've got to start working on dinner as Rob will be going to work tonight at his part-time job.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Sunday, November 11, 2007

The Spring Schedule (And Books)

So, I've been able to register for everything but my internship. As it stands, I have to wait for final approval and a specific section to be created for me to register.

Here is what my schedule will look like in the spring:

Monday: Imaging Africa (non-western class for gen ed requirement) 4-6 pm
Tuesday: English Senior Survey (my only lit analysis since my first semester) 10am-noon
Magazine Writing 6-8 pm
Wednesday: Imaging Africa
Thursday: English Senior Survey and Magazine Writing

Now somewhere in between there, I have to come up with 10 hours a week for the internship. Plus, Cassi and Rob and the house and PTO,...............

As far as my books are considered, I've got the open-ended book scholarship. I've talked with my anchor professor regarding my internship. Basically, there is no book required for the internship. After explaining the scholarship to the professor and suggesting a book that would be good for me to have, he agreed we could get the book required through the bookstore. Once the spring semester starts, I'll be able to get the book with my scholarship.

Cool!

Ok. I'm sitting here with Cassi, helping her get her homework done (yep it's Monday night). I'm also trying to complete my research paper that's due tomorrow. ACK!

Wish me luck! I've been sick this weekend too. So, I slept for a while this evening while Cassi played on her computer and watched some TV.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Blonde Hair

This is a funny story. I had a craft show on the 3rd of November. A vendor from another table came over and saw my chore charts. She thought they were so adorable. But, she has 2 little girls, one girl with blonde hair and one girl with brunette hair. The chore chart I had was for a brunette-haired girl. She asked me if she purchased that one could I also alter the hair for a blonde.

Sure, why not? I'll give it a try and print it out. I saw her on the 10th at another craft show we were both doing.

So, while I was at the first show, I had my laptop and worked on the hair. Now, how do I come up with blonde hair? Rob happened to be around at the time and started looking through my photos for someone with blonde hair.

And, who did I find?

My old supervisor from Ernst & Young, Barb. I have a photo of her with Cassi at 5 years old. I copied pixels of her hair and pasted them into the chore chart. With manipulation of those pixels, I was able to come up with a blonde-haired little girl's chore chart.

She was so happy at the result. She told me how she talked to her girls about getting the chore charts. She said how they were excited to be able to start using them.

I'm glad too!

Just another way I can use photos for graphic manipulation!

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Wednesday, November 07, 2007

Even George Carlin Grows Up, Sort of...

Ok. This one is a forward from my mom. Real hilarious, but has some vulgarity. If you don't want to read, I would stop now.....


New Rule: No more gift registries. You know, it used to be just for weddings. Now it's for babies and new homes and graduations from rehab.
Picking out the stuff you want and having other people buy it for you isn't gift giving, it's the white people version of looting.

New Rule: Stop giving me that pop-up ad for classmates.com! There's a reason you don't talk to people for 25 years. Because you don't particularly like them! Besides, I already know what the captain of the football team is doing these days --- mowing my lawn.

New Rule: Don't eat anything that's served to you out a window unless you're a seagull. People are acting all shocked that a human finger was found in a bowl of Wendy's chili. Hey, it cost less than a dollar. What did you expect it to contain? Lobster?

New Rule: Stop saying that teenage boys who have sex with their hot, blonde teachers are permanently damaged. I have a better description for these kids: "Lucky bastards."

New Rule: If you need to shave and you still collect baseball cards, you're a dope. If you're a kid, the cards are keep sakes of your idols.
If you're a grown man, they're pictures of men.

New Rule: Ladies, leave your damn eyebrows alone. Here's how much men care about your eyebrows: Do you have two of them? Good, we're done.

New Rule: There's no such thing as flavored water. There's a whole aisle of this crap at the supermarket, water, but, without that watery taste.
Sorry, but flavored water is called a soft drink. You want flavored water? Pour some scotch over ice and let it melt. THAT'S your flavored water.

New Rule: Stop screwing with old people. Target is introducing a redesigned pill bottle that's square, with a bigger label. And the top is now the bottom. And by the time grandpa figures out how to open it,
his ass will be in the morgue. Congratulations, Target, you just
solved the Social Security crisis.

New Rule: The more complicated the Starbucks order, the bigger the asshole. If you walk into a Starbucks and order a 'decaf grandee, half-soy, half-low fat, iced vanilla, double-shot, gingerbread cappuccino, extra dry, light ice, with one Sweet-n'-Low, and One NutraSweet,' oooooooohhh, you're a huge asshole.

New Rule: I'm not the cashier! By the time I look up from sliding my
card, entering My PIN number, pressing 'Enter,' verifying the amount, deciding, 'No, I don't want Cash back', and pressing 'Enter' again, the kid who is supposed to be ringing me up is standing there eating my Almond Joy.

New Rule: Just because your tattoo has Chinese characters in it doesn't make you Spiritual. It's right above the crack of your ass. And it translates to 'beef with broccoli.' The last time you did anything spiritual, you were praying to God you weren't pregnant. You're not spiritual. You're just high.

New Rule: Competitive eating isn't a sport. It's one of the seven deadly sins. ESPN Recently televised the U.S. Open of Competitive Eating, because watching those athletes at the poker table was just too damned exciting. What's next, competitive farting? Oh wait, they're already doing that. It's called 'The Howard Stern Show.'

New Rule: I don't need a bigger mega M&Ms. If I'm extra hungry for M&Ms, I'll go nuts and eat two.

New Rule: If you're going to insist on making movies based on crappy old television shows, then you have to give everyone in the Cineplex a remote so we can see what's playing on the other screens. Let's remember the reason something was a television show in the first place is that the idea wasn't good enough to be a movie.

New Rule: And this one is long overdue: No more bathroom attendants.
After I zip up, some guy is offering me a towel and a mint like I just had sex with George Michael. I can't even tell If he's supposed to be there, or just some freak with a fetish. I don't want to be on your webcam, Dude. I just want to wash my hands.

New Rule: When I ask how old your toddler is, I don't need to hear '27 months.' 'He's two' will do just fine. He's not a cheese. And I didn't really care in the first place.

New Rule: If you ever hope to be a credible adult and want a job that pays better than Minimum wage, then for God's sake don't pierce or tattoo every available piece of flesh. If so, then plan your future around saying, 'Do you want fries with that?'



This last rule is PERFECT! I am very old-fashioned and once worked in the corporate world. They DO NOT want to see that you're pierced or tattooed. If you have a tattoo, that's your business, but make sure it can be hidden!

That is all.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Tuesday, November 06, 2007

The Halloween Picture


It's a little blurry because this comes from my cell phone. She REALLY had a good time. I had someone explain to me that she looked like the snow queen from The Chronicles of Narnia movie. That sounds good to me.

But, I promised. So, here she is!

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Wednesday, October 31, 2007

The Halloween Experience...

So, Marie got suckered into buying Cassi ANOTHER halloween costume. However, we were in luck. NO ONE else in the neighborhood was dressed like Cassi. She was dressed like a snow princess. PROMISE, I will post pictures. They're on my camera that isn't easy to access through the laptop, which is where I'm typing this. The other costume she would have worn was a witch costume. And, there were LOTS of witches.

The temperature was pretty nice. The change of the "time change" came at a good time. If we had turned the clocks back last weekend, it would have been dark when we went out. But, because the time change is this Saturday, we had almost an hour of light for walking. We didn't start using the flashlight until about 7pm. Trick or Treating ran from 6-7:30 pm. Because Rob had to work tonight, we didn't give any candy out. To tell you the truth, we haven't given out candy here at all. Because we've either gone as a group or Rob's worked, no one has been home.

This year has been the worst for people giving. I think it will only get worse. It doesn't help that the economy SUCKS. Ok. Not going there on this one right now.

But, we probably walked about 2 miles, 3 streets worth, each street about 3 blocks each.

A funny thing happened. One of the girls from my grammar class ran into us about half way through. Come to find out that she lives in the apartment complex right behind my housing development. COOL! Since we both didn't go to class today, we're getting together to study for the next test. She has a little one. Really cute. Her name is Lilly. Cassi and Lilly hugged. Cassi immediately asked if they could come over to play. Well, I've got a friend who lives near by now and a friend for Cassi to play with. We can even walk over to their house too.

Cassi is in bed now, watching some TV before bed. The candy and stuff was good. Daddy told her to make sure she got lots of candy for him. Since he's been working on quitting smoking, he has been eating, AND EATING, AND EATING! We've got candy bars from last Easter, but they're almost gone now.

Some of the weird stuff Cassi got? A juice box. A small container of PlayDough. Other than that, the usual. She did get the opportunity to stop at our neighbor's across the street 3 (yes, three) times. At the end, she says, "Nah, I don't need to go there. I went there twice already." You could see her think. She says, "Yeah. I'll go again." It was fine with them. They are very fond of Cassi. The couple's daughter/husband/grandson had to move in with them (husband lost job). But, the grandson is getting so big. It's fun to see the area toddlers getting bigger without actually having to have one in the house. About a month or so ago, I had a long conversation with Rob through the text messaging about this little boy. He's getting so big. He thought I was oohing and ahhing because I wanted another kid. NOPE! My pregnancy with Cassi was more than I could handle again. I'll live through everyone else.

But, I'm sitting here right now, watching and recording Ghost Hunters. Say what you will of SciFi Channel, but I LOVE this show. It's a live show at the Waverly Sanitorium. At this site, more than 63,000 people have died. The show will run until 3am. No, I'm not going to stay up until 3. But, it's recording. I'll be able to watch it at leisure.

On the other fronts, this next month will be HELL for me. Here's a quick run down:

1. Research paper in the composition theory class due on the 13th (finishing research to write first draft).
2. Book review due in same class (done). Yeah!
3. The final 2 writing pieces due for my grant class the next 2 wednesday's. Then, all of the individual pieces put together for a final proposal.
4. Two grammar exams over the same time period.
5. Three craft shows. I'm at the St. John Lutheran Church on West River Road in Elyria this Saturday from 9-4. I'm at Elryia Catholic High School on Saturday, Nov. 10 from 9-4. Finally, Saturday of Thanksgiving weekend, I'm at Cornerstone Methodist Church up West River Road. Hopefully I do well at these shows.

House, Cassi, schedule, etc.

Good news. This Friday is a Career Fair at CSU. There currently is 185 employers registered for the fair. As soon as I drop Cassi off at school, I'll be going to the fair. It would be nice to interview with a few companies for a job in May.

Plus, for now, I received an email today, offering me a job as a tutor. Sounded like a good opportunity. I applied for it. Would come in nice right now. We'll see how it goes.

OK. That's it for now. I wanted to update everyone. My online store is moving now. I'm getting as many items uploaded as I can. And, today, we had our first prospective customer to register.

I'll chat again after I have my craft show Saturday.

Lots of love to all,
Cathy
8^ )

Saturday, October 20, 2007

The Craft Show Experience...

OK. So today went pretty well. I flew out to the place last night to drop off my stuff at the spot. Come to find out at 6:30 that the placed closed to drop off and setup at 6.

Ack!

But, luckily, one of the coordinators was still there. She let me drop stuff off, because I wasn't setting up til this morning.

And, it was a good thing I didn't setup.

Come to find out at 6:30 this morning....

I was in the WRONG spot. Okay. Gotta rush, get dressed, get din din started for tonight, get the last small things in the car and go.

Now, where's that letter I just found with my CORRECT space number? Go to the car, not there. Go back in the house, TWICE. Can't find it. Turn lights on. OK. Found it. Right where I was to begin with. At the kitchen sink.

Fly to show! Grab stuff and move to correct space.

BIATCH! Sucky spot...

As I thought. But, I was right near the bakery. The show was pretty busy all day, till about 3.

So, how did I do? Not too bad. Tuesday this week, I quickly put togther coloring books that could be bought by people with kids, or those people who know kids. They ended up, in conversation, that they were the perfect size for traveling. They are 5.5" by 8.5" sized books and bound.

I made 12 at the last minute to see how they would do.

THEY SOLD OUT!

So, I know what to make extra of for the next show.

The tea bag envelopes sold. I call them my "different" gifts. Luch box notes sold, book marks, and magnets also sold.

The lady next to me, come to find out, has started making sterling silver wire jewelry and uses gem stones and things of that sort. I happened to have a ruler in my purse from my grandpa's shop. He makes and repairs jewelry and also has silver wire and stuff, like she uses. I referred her to him for supplies.

She had a little girl there, age 5. She was SO good over the course of the day. I just know Cassi would have been bored out of her mind. I gave her one of my chore charts. I got some stickers. I put the stickers on my name tag.

A few people asked about designing tea bag envelopes and business cards. A few people I knew came by. One teacher from Cassi's school came by and said I should box up some of the stuff and leave it in the teacher's lounge for them to buy. I think I will.

I came out pretty well. I know I would have done better in another part of the school. The show is HUGE! About 200 vendors. But, a lot of the spaces were empty. I could have gone into another space easily and have more room.

I made back what I paid for the spot and some more. But, today was sweetest day. I did spend some money. Bought: baguette bread for din din, a pumpkin pie, a sandwich for lunch, chocolate covered strawberries, and a baby blanket (so mom doesn't have to make one for me for a gift).

Not a bad day. I know what few things I do have to make for my next show in 2 weeks, Christmas tea bag envelopes, business cards, and coloring books.

I did pick a sampling of all my goodies to send as a gift to a friend. I hope she'll like them when she gets them.

Ok. That's it for now. I've got a headache, am doing dishes and laundry tonight.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Wednesday, October 17, 2007

The Good News is...

...

"Lisa and I (Tina) were able to hook up late yesterday afternoon and we are happy to offer the internship to you. It will comprise a position of 10 hours per week unpaid. The job description which I gave you in the interview (and which is attached here) is pretty much what you will be doing. Lisa and I hope to be able to offer you an opportunity to work on actual grant applications so that you have real experience developing one. In addition, I am going to involve you in the monthly production of Research News as well as other Pre-Awards projects, so that by the time you leave your internship, you should have a fairly full understanding of the grantwriter's world.

Please let us know, once you have everything nailed down, when you will be able to start and what hours work for you.

Welcome to Office of Sponsored Programs and Research. We are happy to have you with us."


What this means to me? I get my internship.

And the Bad News... The one class I need that would handle, general education requirement/ English upper level requirement/overall upper level requirement...

Isn't being taught next semester. Instead of being able to take just 10 credit hours, I will have to take 14 credit hours. The one class I have to take now becomes 2 (two). But, on the bright side, one class I took last spring, Advanced Composition, has another concentration of Magazine Writing that I'm confirming to be able to take in the spring.

I haven't even registered for my classes yet, and I'm already seeing the classes as being a BITCH!

So, my schedule?

M-W-F from 12:15 to 1:20 is a Non-Western gen ed class
T-Th from 10-12 is my English Senior Survey
T-Th from 6-8 is my Magazine Writing class

T-Th from 1-5 will be internship, then make up of 2-4 extra hours some time during the week. The bonus with the Magazine Writing class is that, once finished, I will have News Writing, Magazine Writing, Technical Writing, and Grant Writing school-related experience.

Whoo! Hoo!

Okay. Gotta go. Wanted to write REAL quick. I'm finishing up my craft items for my Craft Show this Saturday.

By the way, if you're reading this and in the Cleveland, OH area, I'll be showing my "stuff" at the Lorain County JVS. The show is located at the JVS at Rts. 58 and 20 in Oberlin, OH. The show runs from 9-4. If you're in the area/state, come visit!

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Thursday, October 11, 2007

EXCITEMENT over phone message...

Okay. It's after midnight on Wednesday night, here in chilly Cleveland-area (in Elyria).

I'm wide-butt awake. Why you might wonder?

Well, first, I got a 90% on my last test in Grammar class. Not the grade I was expecting, but I didn't really study for it. I'll do better on next week's test. Tomorrow I get my second take-home test for Mary. I know by Tuesday everyone will want to evacuate the premises over my rants.

I had an interview this morning regarding an English internship for spring semester. I would be working with the woman who helps professors write grants for research money. I will also work with the university's grant writer. I will learn from them how to work with the constituents (my clients) and get grants written. I might even be able to help write specific portions of grants. After submitting the internship requirements to my advisor, he thinks it will be approved once I get my "we want you" call or email from the department.

But, my final reason for staying up? I got a call from someone looking for a professional to print envelopes for an affair they are having. I won't get into too many details now. But, it's a job for 1000 envelopes. (I can do!) The person doesn't remember me, but I interviewed with him for a job a few years ago. Hmmm? I wonder how this will play out. Initially, I don't think I'll tell him who I am. Since that interview, I moved to a new location. So, he may not have recognized me.

But, I've got my font samples ready. And, because he's in Cleveland, I can drop off samples right to his office.

So, I was going to bake apple bread this evening. We juiced apples on Sunday (homemade apple cider). Because of this call, I canned my wanting to bake. I'll bake in the morning instead. I've got an audiologist's appt (hearing aid doctor). But, I should have them ready in time because I want to take a bread to my doctor.

Ok. I'm going to close this now.

I've been reading my usual blogs. Everyone seems "blah" when it comes to blogging. Everyone has their down time. Remember, the seasons are changing right now. Your priorities might not be to "blog" right now. You might just not have the desire to write.

When the thoughts come, even if you're writing what you want to write in a notebook, that's great. You can then come back to your thoughts later on the blog - or not. Your blog is your own. Make of it what you will. Your friends will understand if you've been gone for a while. They will welcome you with open arms when you return.

Shew! I just got a lot off my chest.

With that, I'm be-bopping around the net until I get tired enough to go to bed. The next month will be HELL: (just my to-do's)

1. 4 craft shows in the next month (until turkey-day weekend)
2. 1 book review
3. 1 research paper (How do I teach writing to children with learning disabilities?)
4. 1 grant
5. proposal for spring internship
6. tests!
7. envelope job (if they want me)

Lots of love to all,
Cathy
8^ )

Tuesday, October 09, 2007

New Template

Okay. Just made a new template. Hope everyone likes it. I wanted something that says "fall" but will last until after Thanksgiving. Not that I didn't like my American Pride, but it was time for a change.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

New Link on Left Navigation

Ok. If I didn't have enough to do. Some of you know that I sell Watkins Products. For those of you who don't know what Watkins Corporation is, the company is THE first direct-selling business. Rob and I have been selling and using the products 4 years now. In the past, I sold Tupperware. Believe me, this has been the best business to be in. Because the products are consumable, the customer will be back for more.

Ok. With that said, I've added a link on the left navigation under my blogs. I will be adding information as much as possible to get the word out about Watkins Products. This is holiday time and baking galore is going on.

Everyone should at least try the products. Let me know if you want a catalog and I can mail one to you. Also, you can view the products online at the company's Web site: www.watkinsonline.com.

My only request is that if you look to order anything, they will ask you who sent you to their site. Our associate number is 342297. You'll be setup with a customer ID (like my associate ID). Your order will be credited to us as your associates.

Lots of love for now. I'm working on continuing to post my tea bag envelopes on my Cathy's Bargains Web site. Take a look now! I've got lots of products out there for sale and more being added daily. Yep, I'm working on the Web site, along with my school, Cassi's school, etc.

And the beat goes on!

Lots of love to all,
Cathy
8^ )

Thursday, October 04, 2007

Congratulate Me!

So far, this semester, I am getting A's in all THREE (3) of my classes. I wasn't sure if I would be able to pull it off, but I have.

Now, this does come with a price. I think I've had a stomach flu this week.

This plus:

1. Helping Cassi make sure her homework is done EVERY night.
2. Running the PTO, which, by the way, is a 501(c)(3) Non-Profit Organization (yep, I'm runnin' a business)
3. Getting my Products together for my fall craft shows (yep, I'm runnin' a business)
4. Keeping our schedules sane
5. Keeping our house SANE
6. Having fun time with the kid and hubby
7. My fall tv watching schedule

Now, you might wonder when I sleep with all this stuff? A good example, when I get done on the computer, I will complete #5 and #7 at the same time. I'll go to the bedroom, fold the laundry and watch my DVR'd TV shows, while at the same time, starting a load of laundry to be washed. In the morning, while I'm getting Cassi ready for school, I'll unload the dishwasher and load it for another washing.

But, for those of you wondering, Cassi is doing MUCH better at school. We had a rough month at school. Marie, the GODDESS that she is, gives Cassi a dollar each day she's good at school. While Cassi could have had 19 dollars, she will only get 13. Six of those days she was bad and got warnings. One day, it really wasn't her fault. The boys in class cut in front of her in line when going to lunch. Instead of telling the teacher, she took matters into her own hands and whacked them on the ass with her lunchbox. Bad. The other days, she talked with her deskmate too much. That problem has since been alleviated. The other girl was moved to another desk. But, so far, she's 4-4 this week. I told her if she's good all month, mom and dad will give her a bonus. So, we'll see.

With that, I'll close for now. I've got TV and laundry to do.

Lots of love to all,
Cathy
8^ )

Friday, September 28, 2007

Can't Believe I'm Not Obsessing...

Ever since I announced the change in Rob's cell phone number, I have barely looked at the Verizon Wireless bill. Before, with him chatting with HER, I was continually looking at the bill. On the site, you would be able to tell when the last msg was. And, because her number was "out of network," I knew how many messages were for her and his daughter (both out of network).

But, now I don't have to do that at all.

Plus, I waited about two weeks for him to remove her phone number from his phone. When he didn't remove it, I did. If he looked, he probably realized I did it, but didn't ask.

He married me!

And, I SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO love him!

(Psst! And I am IN love with him still too! Even after 10 and a half years!)

Lots of love to all,
Cathy
8^ )

You Know You're old WHEN...

Your favorite music shows up on the local "oldies" channel.

Yes, lately, here in Cleveland, I've been surfing the radio stations. When I'm not listening to my iPod, I'm listening to the radio. Say what you will, but sometimes, the radio is just an easy way to get some good music.

In the mornings, the oldies channel is basically a talk-radio show. I like to listen to it. So, it's saved in my favorites.

Other than that, it's all oldies music. However, the past two weeks, it seems every time I switch to that channel, it's got my 80's music on. And not just early 80's. I've heard stuff as late as 87.

Okay, does this mean I'm old? Yes, I'll tell everyone my age. I'm 36! And DAMNED PROUD of it too!

And, yes, there's a lot spewing from me this evening and yesterday. I'm being ambitious and getting a few things done this evening.

Tomorrow, I'm going downtown to the CSU. I'm meeting someone from class to study for the grammar exam. This is easy for me, but she's having trouble. Then, I have research to do for Tuesday. In my Composition Theory class, I have to get a book for a book review and research for my paper.

So, this evening, I'm working on:

laundry (in progress)
dishes (in washer)
fold laundry (later)
process fundraiser orders (later)
sweep hardwood floors because I ran out of swiffer pads (later)
work on online store for my creative products (when I'm done here)

Okay, gonna go for now. I'm about to start working on my online store. FYI...If you go to my CathyHennes.com link, there's a link there for the online store. The online store is at www.cathysbargains.com. But, you'll find my Creatively Cathy products easier if you go through the CathyHennes.com link.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Trucks and Cars (and Cars and Trucks)...

Why can't people driving cars realize that the TRUCK will win every time????!!!!!

This week, I saw on the highway, the same highway both times, where car (or cars) and a truck got into an accident.

The first time, Rob and I were coming back from the doctor's office Tuesday morning. We were in the fast lane and the highway was packed with cars. A truck was in the slow lane and could not get over. As a car was coming onto the highway, the driver ignored the YIELD sign and tried to beat out the truck.

It lost! And got smashed by the truck! Luckily, the driver didn't get hurt, just the car. But, the truck took almost a half mile to stop and pull over.

Today, as I was flying home from school to get Cassi, I saw in the middle of the highway (grassy area) two cars who appeared to be in an accident. One of those cars just happened to be a Jag. But, on the other side of the highway, in the right burm, was a semi. There was also three police cars, an ambulance, and a fire truck.

PEOPLE!

You WILL NEVER win against a truck! SLOW DOWN!

That is all! Off the soap box now.

My hubby drove a semi in a past life. They can't stop a truck or speed up a truck like a car can. This can scare the SHIT out of them. And, if you're not careful, you will be CRUSHED by that semi!

Lots of love and safety to all,
Cathy
8^ )

Creative Help from Blogging Friends

Okay, need some help from blogging friends! I'm setting up templates to create party invitations. I'm working on my Web site's online store and want to have designs ready so people could purchase one's I've already created. But, I've got creative block. In the comments, can you share with me events that you would receive a party invitation for?

Obvious ones:

1. wedding invitation
2. wedding shower
3. baby shower
4. new house
5. halloween
6. new year's
etc......

etc......

Thanks.

Lots of love to all,
Cathy
8^ )


7:45pm Update:

Here are what I've come up with (plus from my anonymous friend):

Birthday
Graduation
BBQ
New Year's
Christmas
Valentine's Day
St. Patrick's Day
Retirement
Good Bye
Congratulations (for whatever)
Halloween
Thanksgiving
Tea Party
Wedding Shower
Baby Shower
New House

(from friend)
Christenings
Anniversaries (gold and silver, but I would say anniversaries in general)
Child's BDay
Engagement
Pot Luck
Super Bowl
BBQ (got that)

I want a good sampling of about 5-10 for each. I figure if I get 5 for each, and someone wants custom, I've got a good starting point. Thought of my list above while I was waiting for class to start today.

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Not Posting in a While...

Sorry, guys that I haven't posted in a while. Here's a run-down in no particular order:

1. Last week I had 2 MAJOR exams in my classes. Everyone wanted to make me move out I was so stressed over my one exam. The grammar exam I received a 98 out of 100 on that test. This class has become boring for me because it seems so easy. The Composition Theory for English Teachers, no grade yet. I was out today for getting Cassi's cast removed at the doctor.

2. I had 2 MAJOR writing assignments due in my Grant class. The first one I got a 10 out of 10, which keeps me at A, but the second assignment I didn't write very well. I think I wrote too much. But, I think everyone wrote it wrong. We are working on writing our need statement for the grants we are writing.

3. This week, the fundraiser was turned in. I've got a few orders processed. A few more came in today, but I'm waiting until next week to ship them all off to Chicago. Our next PTO meeting? Oct. 10.

4. I'm still working on goodies to sell at my first craft show. When's my first show? Check the next posting. All my craft shows will be listed there.

5. Helped Rob the past 2 weeks in putting a new shed together. He pulled the old shed apart, down to the studs and put new plywood and roof on. We're finishing the painting now.

6. Helped Rob get the dining room table out to the garage. He is currently working on sanding it down to refinish it. The goal is to get it done by Thanksgiving for a nice dinner with family here at the house.

7. HOMEWORK, HOMEWORK, HOMEWORK

8. Housework, HOUSEWORK, HOUSEWORK!!!!!!!!

9. Keeping our schedules in line and what days I need Dan to watch Cassi

10. Doing homework EVERYDAY with Cassi.

Somewhere, sometime, get some sleep!

I knew this semester was going to be bad. I just hope it's a little easier for my final semester before graduation.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

P.S. I'm not writing very much because writing a journal isn't a requirement in my 2 English classes.

Saturday, September 15, 2007

He FINALLY Listened to Me...

He changed his cell phone number!

Yes, that ONE change restored my confidence in my husband. He FINALLY understood what I was trying to tell him all these many months.

I'll backtrack a little. Last weekend, Rob was off work Saturday through Tuesday. He was working to get our outside shed fixed. When we bought this house, the shed was in disrepair. There was a hole in the roof and the sides were rotting away.

We finally had the opportunity to change the shed. Rob was able to save the internal structure (the studs), removing the outside, and rebuilding the outside shell. Sunday night I had had a bad night's sleep. I think it was because I helped him Sunday with the hard part of putting the plywood onto the shell. I helped him with the cutting and boarding.

Well, Monday, I start a new week at school. Monday, Rob asks for my help again with the shed to get it done as quickly as possible. By this point, the shed is all done, except for the doors. This was the HARD part for me.

While we were working, I happened to be nosy on his phone. He had sent her a message saying to not text him. He was off until Wednesday. One of our agreements was that he got no messages at home. Still not my solution, but worked.

I was so mad that I again wasn't able to sleep. (Marie, this is why I had two CRAPPY nights sleep.)

Wednesday night comes. We're texting each other. The conversation kinda goes like this:

Me: Can you do me a favor?
Him: What?
Me: Can you watch what you say to her?
Him: I will.
Me: You know she's trying everything she can to talk with you and spend time with you because she wants you.
Him: I know.
Me: She wants to be with you. She's in love with you.
Him: You're right.
Me: But you tend to ignore what I say to you on this subject.

That was it. I was very logical about the whole situation. Not emotional, not pissy. Just plain, matter-of-fact. No messages exchanged Wednesday night.

Thursday night, Cassi and I helped start paint the shed. I looked on his phone and saw she texted him. I told him. He must have known how absolutely upset I was. He didn't reply back.

Friday morning. She did it again. And, again he didn't reply back. He even told me she sent him a message Friday morning while talking this morning.

This morning, he comes home and looks at the Verizon Wireless bill online. He starts looking at what his setup is and says he can go back to the $10 a month for texting (Marie, this is your $5 plan). He says, I wanted to see about getting my phone number changed. We'll go over to the store before I go to bed because I can't do this online. We'll change the number and the texting plan at the same time.

He didn't say anything else to me.

I said to him, "Thank you."

I said to him that he could go lower because his daughter had to have her phone turned off. The only messages he would be getting and receiving would be from me (and maybe Marie).

Do you know how much of a relief this is to my mind? I think he's understanding how upset I've gotten over the whole thing and found a resolution to solve it.

She doesn't have our home number (changed a few times this summer). She does know where we live. If she's that brazen to come to my home, she's crazier than I thought.

Then, to top it off, Rob may be stopping his part-time job. I explained to him how he could make just as much at his regular job doing less hours. Because he gets overtime, he could work one 12-hour day and make as much in that one day as two days at the part-time job. And, the overtime is there for him at work. Next week, he's working one day. But, for the next pay after, he's got three so far. And, he really likes working on this surgical floor. It's a lot to know, but the management is MUCH better.

So, this keeps him away from where she works too.

It appears being logical and practical does have its rewards.

Ok. That's it for now. I'm working on studying for my exams next week. I've got one in-class and one take home. I just napped because I was tired. This will keep me awake for some time this evening. But, I'll be able to do my exam.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Friday, September 14, 2007

It's Official....

Today, I turned in my application for graduation!



I will graduate in Spring, 2008 (May). Wish me luck! Once completed, I will have a Bachelor of Arts Degree in English and a Professional Writing Certificate.



Lots of love,

Cathy

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P.S. I would post more, but I've got to finish eating lunch and head to class.

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Today = Crappy!

Well, today did start being crappy. I had a crappy night's sleep. I woke up at 5 because I had to potty. I think I got the most "sleep" from that time till the alarm went off at 7:30 am. I woke up with a migraine that just won't go away, even with medicine. Crap! I'm all out of my migraine medicine. Need more!

I looked up where a certain English professor was this morning. I've got to call him about doing an internship in the spring. That way, I can take 2 classes and 1 internship, much better!

Got Cassi up and ready for school. There's so much going on inside of my mind. Personal things, school things, and PTO things. Remember, even though I've got PTO things, many of the PTO things are related to one of my classes. Why not kill two birds with one stone?

So, I took Cassi down to school. Crap! I need to take my car to get gas, otherwise, I'm not leaving Elyria!

Came back from doing my PTO needs this morning: copying and getting phone lists to the PTO members (we've got 7 of us this year!), copies of the by-laws for Sam's Club and the bank. I'll get a Sam's Club card for the PTO. And, write out a check to give to Guidance Counselor for motivational book. Approved by the group.

Got home and made my phone call to Professor Geither and Career Services. I've got a meeting with Career Services on Friday. This will really be good to get the internship for the spring. OK. Two phone calls done today.

The day is getting better. Dan came over. Since it's raining, Rob and Dan are playing in the garage on wood working stuff. They are going to try to put together a lazy susan with pine for practice. They'll make nice Christmas gifts if they can get a template together. We took pictures of one the last time we were in Amish country (south of here).

Rob is working to get our dining room table sanded down and refinished for Thanksgiving this year. I think it will look beautiful. Plus, we finally got chairs ordered for the table. Yippie! We purchased the stain they are putting on the chairs for the table so they all match.

I went out to the garage and got some breakfast buddies. A little hungry. A breakfast buddie is like a corn dog, but made with pancakes and sausage. A hit with Dan and me.

Must be the weather because my headache won't go away! But, the day is getting better. I found, not just one, but two cans of caffeine free Coke in the fridge. I was just saying to Rob last night how I was craving Pepsi. This works just as well.

I've got to go to mom's today before class. I've got to setup the new printer for grandpa. And, mom wants her comforter for the bed. Good enough. I'll leave about 1 as it won't take long at all to get it together.

Ok. Gotta go for now. I have some homework to do before class and homework due for my grant writing class.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

P.S. Cassi is now in a cast. There's no plaster in it. She can get it wet, go swimming, etc. The water just comes right out. The fiberglass mesh is glow in the dark with teddy bears. I'll get a picture later and post it. OH, yeah! Her cast comes of around the 27th.

Thursday, September 06, 2007

The Anatomy of a Typical "Cathy" Day...

Wednesday, I exhibited my typical "Cathy" day. This is how it will probably be for until Christmas.

7:30 am - alarm went off. I hit the snooze. I hit the snooze a second time 9 minutes later.

7:45 am - hubby sends text message saying "good morning." Shit, it's already time to get up. My brain is working.

Get Cassi's stuff for school ready. Get Cassi up. Get Cassi dressed because she has a fractured left wrist and can't really "do" for herself.

Take shower. With all that running around, I'm getting a little sweatty.

Get dinner started (roast in the crock pot that turned out to be 3 roast-steaks packed together). Get a cup of coffee started (REALLY need the caffeine this morning).

8:55 am - take Cassi to school and hang out for assembly. They are having an assembly with the company being used for our fall fundraiser.

9:30 am - assembly. Have all 300+ kids in the gym. Hmm. Getting a little sweatty here. Come to find out we are allowing the kids to start selling today. This gives them 3 weeks and 1 day to sell and get everything back. Gotta go home and make labels for the letters from the company noting this change. Gotta get back here to pass out all the handouts (letters and brochures) to all the kids before I go to school.

10 am - go home. Make labels. Change shirt as I have been sweatting from the heat. It's sticky today.

10:15 am - get back to school with letters and labels. Stick labels on 320 letters and cross out bad date on letters. Take the boxes of brochures, along with letters to each room and hand out. Oh good. It's lunch time. I'll be able to drop off in each room and not disturb the teachers.

12:10 pm - all done passing out everything. I missed one class directly because the room is locked. Will have to leave it in her mailbox at the office. Gotta go home and completely change. I REALLY sweatted from this walk through the school. I REALLY need a job here as it seems I'm here EVERY day.

12:30 pm - zip to school. Class starts at 1:30 pm, Grammar. Call Marie along the way. Wasn't sure if she was still working or not. Oh, good. She's not working but on her way home. I get to talk to her until I am just about to downtown Cleveland.

1:30 pm - start class. Damn. I don't know how to diagram sentences. I guess I'll know after this class.

2:40 pm - fly from school back to Cassi's school. Cassi gets done school at 3:05 pm. Luckily Dan is there and can grab her. We've got a PTO meeting today. Does my life get any easier? Rob still sleeping.

3:05 pm - get back to Elyria and her school.

3:30 pm - have PTO meeting. Lasts until 4:30 pm. Ooh. Good! I can make up some taters for Rob to have din din before I go to my night class. Do I get to rest? No!

5:30 pm - go to class. One small problem. I'm in the right class, on the wrong floor! I gave the ladies in the class something to talk about after I leave. Man, am I dippy?!

7:00 pm - done school. go to Dan's. go home get tools for Dans. go to Dan's.

8:00 pm - come home. relax. watch Brother Bear 2 with Cassi. Have a snack. Go to bed. Have some sex. Have another snack and watch TV. Go to bed (12:30 am).

Wake up this morning at 7:10 am to a headache. Today will be equally as crazy as yesterday. Starts out with the Orthopedic appt for Cassi.

Love to all,
Cathy
8^ )

Tuesday, September 04, 2007

MY First Week of School...

First, let me back date. On Saturday (Aug 25), I received my student loan refund check in the mail. I need the money to purchase my parking card (not free in Cleveland) and my books. Along with my check is an envelope from Financial Aid at the school.

So, okay. What the heck do I need to do now?

Nope. Nothing I need to do. Something I did that will help me IMMENSELY. I received a scholarship for my books.

No, not just this semester. But Spring 08 as well. So, when I went to get the books, they tell me I have no limit on my scholarship. Whatever is required of me in textbooks I get to buy on this scholarship. I was able to purchase ALL my books brand new (one was used because all were used). My total cost that I didn't have to pay for was $350. Pretty good, eh? I ended up purchasing the book being used in the other section of the Grant Writing class; the original section I was in, but was on Saturday mornings.

Anyway, my goal is to graduate Spring 2008. I've got 6 classes left this year. This means I have to buckle down and take full-time credits. The bonus is that I get extra grant money from financial aid. The minus is that I don't get to sleep as much. Because, along with 3 classes is also my duties as President of PTO.

So, this semester, my schedule consists of English Grammar (ENG 310), Composition Theory for Instructors (ENG 308 in case I want to become a teacher), and Grant Writing and Proposal Development (UST 410, covers my Professional Writing Certificate). In actuality, I need 5 classes to graduate with just my degree, Bachelor of Arts in English. The UST 410 will also give me my Professional Writing Certificate.

My schedule is VERY hairy. M-W-F from 1:30-2:30 is Grammar. T-Th is Theory from 3-5. And Wednesday nights (80% web and 20% class) is my Grant class from 6-8. Plus, on the first Wednesday of each month will be the PTO meeting right after school for Cassi from 3:30-5. Then, Rob works nights. On the nights that he works and I'm in school, Cassi will go to Dan's house. Dan is the PTO Treasurer. His daughter and Cassi are good friends.

Can you see my scheduling nightmare? And, somewhere in all of this, I am keeping the house cleaned, cooking for Rob, and spending time with my family.

As it stands now, it's almost midnight on the east coast and I'm exhausted and nauseous from not eating a complete din din. Yes, I ate. Just not much.

But, I have a BUTT LOAD of reading to do. Right now, I'm sitting on over 50 pages of reading for theory class. But, I'm almost up to date on my grant writing reading. I will be damned if I get anything less than a B in all 3 classes.

I found out I've got a major research paper to do for theory class. I'm thinking on the lines of: "What are the implications of teaching English (reading and writing) to children with learning disabilities?" This idea came into my mind because I have to spend the next year preparing Cassi to take her first achievement text next year. How will they prepare her to take that test? The whole issue with her disability is because she has trouble processing what she reads. Those tests are timed. It will be interesting to see. This paper is for the theory class. I will write it for Mary like I wrote my Tech Writing paper last spring. Also for her class are 3 exams and various other assignments.

For grant writing, the whole semester, the class is the process to determine a non-profit organization to write a grant. Since I am President of PTO, which is also a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, I'll be researching and preparing a Grant RFP. This will help me with two goals: 1. my class assignment and 2. possible funding for our projects at the school. I would love to write a grant that would be funded. I've got projects that I want to get for the school that grants would definitely help with costs.

The grammar class is a generic class with reading, homework, and exams/quizzes. No papers. But, this professor is so into the grammar. I really enjoy it, but understand why my classmates don't understand why the professor is so "gung ho" about grammar. They don't realize that he is also an editor. This is what "moves" him.

So, that's about it for now. I'm already into week 2. Is it done yet?

Gotta go for now. I really need to read some more before I go to bed. And, I'll be up again at 7:30am doing it all again!

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Sunday, September 02, 2007

Cassi is making a birdhouse (the story)...

Yes, Cassi is getting into woodworking.

This project started in May. We had to take a trip to a woodworking shop on the east side of Cleveland, looking for wood bleach for the floor project. At that time, Cassi saw a kit to make a bird house. She begged daddy to get it and help her put it together. At the time, we didn't have the time or the extra money.

About a month ago, Cassi remember one day while they were in Lowe's.

"Daddy, when can we make that bird house?"

So, daddy promised to make the bird house with Cassi. Just a project for Cassi and Daddy.

A few weekends ago, I helped Rob put a template together to make a bird house. The house will also double as a bird feeder. We went out and purchased some tools to start Cassi own tool belt. She's even gotten her own tool apron. Rob and I cut out the wood to have it all ready for her to hammer the nails in.

As the pictures below show, Cassi, with the help of pre-nailing by daddy, nailed the house together. For the sides, where the feeder part lives, she helped daddy measure out the length of the fence piece.

Because the house was made with 3/4 inch wood, the house is VERY heavy. Originally, she wanted the house to go in a tree. Not going to happen. Daddy will buy a 4x4 wooden post. The house will go next to the front porch.

Colors? Cassi chose black for the roof, red for the house, and light blue for the bird feeder part. I've been helping her paint the house. We're about half done. I want to make sure there's enough coats for it to survive outside for a while.

Don't have pictures of the house with paint yet. Once I do, I'll add the finished house pictures. Cassi is REALLY having a good time. She's just super impatient because she wants to get the entire house done at once.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Cassi is making a birdhouse (the picts)...








Cassi's First Day (and Week) of School...

So, Cassi started school this week. Monday to be exact!

"I'm FREE! Free as the wind blows!" (yep, that's me singing)

But, even though I'm free, I'm actually up there at school with her almost EVERY day. That's what happens when you're the PTO President. I will probably be that way for the next five years.

But, as I said, Cassi started school this week. She was so excited. Here are the two pictures I took of her at her desk:


Her teachers are really good too. She'll have the same teacher again this year for her special ed stuff. Because of my schedule, we had to find someone to take her on Wednesday evenings. Dan, the Treasurer of PTO, picks up his daughter, Alexis on Tuesday-Thursday. He figured why not in taking Cassi. When I have to go to class Wednesday nights, Cassi will go there and spend the night.

She was lucky! No homework this week.

A sad little story enfolded on her first night there. The girls decided to play kamkazi(sp) off the couch. They were jumping off the couch. Cassi slipped and fell on her left wrist. Dan said she cried and he had her ice the wrist. Then, she was off playing again. Thursday, she went to school and was fine all day. Of course, with all this being "normal," I didn't think anything of it Thursday night when he brought her home (when Rob's working on Tuesday-Thursday, Cassi will be picked up by Dan).

Friday morning came. I was getting stuff ready for school. Luckily for Cassi, only four days at school, and she gets a day off. The teachers had a professional development day. Cassi Nana took a half day off so Cassi could stay with her while I was in class. I don't know this professor very well and didn't just want to show up with her in tow to class. I will probably have him again in the spring and don't want to be on his "bad girl" list.

But, as I said, I was finishing homework and getting stuff ready to go. While she was going for the afternoon, she was also going for the weekend. Pa had big plans for them for the weekend.

About an hour after she got up, she comes running into my office crying and her wrist hurts so bad. I have to wake up Rob (came home after 3rd day in a row of work). We still haven't gotten the insurance cards yet and not sure what to do. So, I called the doctor's office to get her in. Doctor is busy but was told to take her to the urgent care. By the time all this happens, it's noon. I have class at 1:30pm. I knew I wouldn't be able to get her there and the class on time.

So, she goes to Nana's. I pick her back up after class and take her to the urgent care center. They take an x-ray and call the films into the affiliated hospital. Appears Cassi fractured her wrist. If you look at your left hand, with the thumb on the inside (top of hand is facing you), the bone down the line from the thumb is where the fracture is. The said the bone was actually scrunched. So, Cassi gets put into an air cast. I have to take her to an Orthopedic Surgeon for a regular cast. She will also be out of gym for a month.

But, the worst part is, she writes with her LEFT HAND! She does write with her right hand and will have to do so all the time now.

Yesterday, she tried to negotiate getting the cast taken off in a week. Gotta laugh at that.

So, all Pa's plans got shot to Hell. Pa did take her to the zoo yesterday. It was alot of walking around. Today, she went to Chuck E. Cheese's, but couldn't do any climbing, just some games. He was taking her to Target to go shopping this evening. Not sure what they'll be doing tomorrow, but she wants to come home before daddy goes to work.

So, that was her first week at school. Next week will be interesting because she's having problems with the dressing and de-dressing when using the potty. And, as most people know, the toilet paper lives on the left side of the stall. And, with doing homework, I will probably be even more busy helping write down her homework for her. I'll get to sleep 2-4am each night after doing her homework with her and MY homework.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

P.S. I'll be 100% grey by the time this semester is over!

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

MBTI and Me...

Does anyone know what the MBTI is? MBTI is short for Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. It is a personality test that was created to determine if you are intraverted, extraverted, etc.

For my homework for my Tuesday-Thursday class, I was to take the test online and bring my results in.

The test can be found on: here. The test is free. Try it and see what you are. There are 72 questions.

And, the results:

ENFJ

E is for extraverted
N is for intuitive (don't know why they don't use I, maybe because I is for intraverted)
F is for feeling
J is for judging

They also gave me 2 sites that explain what these letters mean. (along with we'll be going over the letters Thursday)

First Site
Second Site

Basically, the descriptions say that I'm to be a good teacher. Hmmm. The class this homework was for deals with the theory of teaching composition. Plus, I've already had experience has a teacher, when I taught technology classes and all the technical writing stuff I do now.

Cool!

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

P.S. I still have to write about my first day and Cassi's first day (with pictures of Cassi). But, I'll have to wait to do that until Thursday. I'll be on the go tomorrow with court for my friend, then 2 classes and back-to-school night at the elementary school. I won't be done until 11!

Giving Cassi a bath tonight...

made me smell and remember something. As I was washing Cassi's hair, I smelled the bathroom smell with the shampoo and soap in the tub. The smell reminded me of when we would go in the summers to my dad's mom's house for vacation. It had that same smell.

I swear I'm going to get up to Haverhill, MA as soon as possible. I even keep having dreams again about her and the house she lived in.

I swear she's watching out for me.

Okay. Just thought I'd share.

Lots of love to all,
Cathy
8^ )

Thursday, August 23, 2007

MySpace and Facebook...

This is bad news if you've got one of these sites and you work. I just got an email from a Web site called ITproPortal.com. The following story was posted:

Facebook banned by half of employers
'Get yer nose out of that 'Book... '

By Tim Ferguson
Published: Tuesday 21 August 2007

Half of businesses are restricting employees' access to social networking site Facebook, due to concerns about productivity and security.

According to research by security company Sophos, 43 per cent of workers polled said their employer blocks Facebook access completely.

A further seven percent said access is restricted depending on whether it's required for a particular job.

Cheat Sheets
Web 2.0
Mash-ups

Graham Cluley, senior technology consultant at Sophos, told silicon.com: "I think it's a growing concern for employers for a number of reasons. The most pressing concern at the moment is one of productivity."

He said: "Some people are spending an inordinate amount of time on non-work related websites."

Cluley added it is difficult to tell when people are using a social networking site when they are at a computer.

The issue of security was also raised by the Sophos research. In a separate poll by the company, 66 per cent of workers said they are concerned about colleagues sharing information on Facebook.

Details such as employment history and mobile numbers have been found on the site and could be used for identity theft or to launch corporate phishing attacks.

Sophos research found 41 per cent of Facebook users are willing to divulge personal information to complete strangers.

Cluley said: "Everyone's just sort of letting it all hang out online without thinking who might be watching."

Facebook told silicon.com it provides users with the ability to hide personal information and "welcomes every opportunity to educate users about how to protect their data online".

Of the 50 per cent of companies that allow access to Facebook, Cluley said some view it as a valuable networking tool while others are nervous about the possibility of an employee backlash to a ban.
__________

So, this is the story. My soapbox moment: All of you who like to blog at work, that might be next.

Anyway, the purpose of this, as you've read, I've got a WONDERFUL step-daughter. Her name will not be changed because she's very guilty. Her name is Nicole. She has a MySpace account. Here is the link:

http://www.myspace.com/samsbabygurl620

"Fuck What U Heard Recognize What U C Bitch" (sorry, that's what it says on her site)

Can you see why I call her what I do? She plays so innocent with Rob (see the following story to realize why she's not: here).

And, I messaged Rob, asking him if I should send a message to her Tuesday night. "Sure, why not? Let me know what you talk about." I asked him because she's told him she's afraid of me. Well, after that day in July, she better be. I was in an accident because I was where I shouldn't have been to get her.

No problem. I send her one message, "Hello, Nicole. How are you?"

No response. I tell him this later in the evening that there was no response. But, low and behold, the minute he messages her, she responds. She tells him she never got the message. Now, with technology the way it is these days (very good), there's no way she didn't get the message. I know she's lying through her teeth. He agrees. She tells him that I should send another message Wednesday (yesterday).

Huh? You know I've sent you a message. It's your turn to respond.

Today, first off, knowing that Rob is working, decides to send him a message at 12:30pm. He worked last night and is working tonight and tomorrow night. Tonight and tomorrow are 12 hour shifts.

This means, he's in bed sleeping. What does she say to him?

"Well, she didn't text me." And he told me. Um. We were a little busy yesterday. He stayed up until 12:30 because we ran out for an errand together before he went to bed. Then, I worked on PTO bills and taxes, then my business, getting things ready for my first craft show. Then, we had company over and Rob went back to bed while company stayed (Dan and Alexis).

I WAS A LITTLE BUSY! She knew I tried to contact her. CALL ME!

I think she's full of SHIT, saying she's afraid of me. It's all just a big game. And her MySpace account proves it. She thinks she's all high and mighty.

Yes, Marie, I'm in a VERY difficult situation. But, it appears Rob is on my side, making him have a difficult position. I think he trusts how I am dealing with her. And believe me, if she lived here, she wouldn't have the freedoms she's got. Nor would I allow her to have things like a cell phone. She would wish she was living somewhere else.

Ok. That's it for my soapbox this evening. Hmm. I'm starting to feel better already. This outpour has been good for my soul.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Being Animated...

Lynda just posted on her blog about becoming a Simpons character. Here's her link so you can see what she looks like:
http://lkscherf.blogspot.com/2007/08/simpsonized.html

Now, don't forget, I got a link from Vegas Princess to allow me to become a South Park character. Here is what I look like: (and got many agreements on what I really look like to the character)
http://cathyasmom.blogspot.com/2006/11/im-animated.html

For those of you who wish to become a South Park character, here is the link: http://www.sp-studio.de/. Go cartoon-ize yourself.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )

Monday, August 20, 2007

When Your Spouse or Significant Other...

Has friends of the opposite sex.

This was a main story the other day through the main page on Yahoo! It is entitled: Your Friends Scare Me. Read on and you'll start to understand what I've been dealing with for the past 4 months. I am starting to calm down a little about the situation, but the situation is still there. The post below this will have the details of that situation. Names will not be changed to save the guilty.

Read on: web link here

Your Friends Scare Me

Why do I feel threatened by my partner's opposite-sex friends?
By Dr. Scott Haltzman
hitchedmag.com
Updated: Aug 22, 2007

Question: Why do I feel threatened by my partner's opposite-sex friends?

Answer: If your partner is enjoying the company of another person, and that person is someone of the opposite sex from your partner, the answer is pretty obvious: you're worried about your mate becoming sexually attracted to that person, and, well, you know what happens next....

It's quite common for a couple to struggle with the thorny issue of opposite-sex friends. Sometimes the problem arises from one partner refusing to let go of past boyfriends or girlfriends. Individuals who keep the old flames' phone numbers in their contact file believe it doesn't make sense to dispose of the friendship just because the romance fizzled out.

Some opposite-sex relationships spring from the workplace. In many job sites, including the military, men and women work side by side. When put into high-intensity situations, people bond. Some people, even if they're married, think that it's artificial to limit these positive work experiences to the office. They figure that if it feels good to be around their officemate during work, it should feel good spending time together after work as well.

Even though your mate sees lots of good reasons to foster these friendships, you have an even better reason not to: because it threatens your relationship. You're concerned that if your partner has a friendship with a person today, it could grow into a love affair tomorrow. And you have every reason to be concerned.

The Warning Signs

When one individual shares intimacies with another of the opposite sex, they develop a familiarity that binds them closer together. This connection breeds feelings of "specialness" that leaves each with the sense that they have a unique understanding of each other -- one that other people can't appreciate. The big problem with this arrangement is that it excludes you and directs the energies that should be going into your relationship out toward other people.

Your mate may believe that opposite-sex friendships are harmless because his or her friend is married. But that's just dead wrong! Many friendships outside of marriage start as "just friends" and grow closer and more intimate. Because these friendships are so fresh, interesting and compelling, it's not long before the two people involved start to think they are more compatible than their own life partners. It's a small step from that realization to the development of a full-blown affair, and the destruction of a marriage.Do you need to be concerned?

Ask yourself these questions:

1. Is the person someone whom your partner would consider "attractive"?
2. Are they spending time together outside of the office (even for office lunches) when other people are not around?
3. Has your partner excluded this "friend" from your life, either by not telling you when they are meeting, refusing to introduce you, or going into another room to talk on the phone when you are nearby?
4. Does your partner tell you that he or she has the kind of relationship with this friend that you just couldn't understand?

A "yes" to question #1 and any of the other three questions means your partner's friendship may be a threat to your relationship.

If your mate is involved in a special relationship that makes you uncomfortable, don't ignore that feeling. You've got to ask for what you need -- for your mate to end further personal and exclusive friendships with people of the opposite sex. Remember, your partner may not be intending to hurt you, and may honestly feel like there is nothing to worry about. You can help him or her understand your concerns; it may help to read this article together.

Finally, your partner may feel it's rude or unfair to the "friend" to end the exclusivity of the friendship. That may be right, but frankly, not taking action is rude and unfair to you. In all cases, the needs of your relationship outweigh the needs of a friend. After all, you should always be number one on your partner's buddy list.


My personal experience recently has been #1 as a yes and #3. I know he talks to her, even though he doesn't work directly with her anymore. But, he tries to tell me no that he hasn't been talking with her, but the text messaging logs just don't lie. He doesn't want to tell me because I know how she feels about him. (oops, getting into the next entry)

Keep reading with the next entry.

Lots of love,
Cathy
8^ )